The Let Them Theory book is a refreshing and motivational approach on life. This book delivers Mel Robbins’ new approach using the Let Them Theory, a short yet information packed book that can change your perspective on the way you handle situations. It presents the idea that if people want to judge, ignore, exclude, or misunderstand you, then you let them. 

Robbins’ thesis is that we invest so much time and energy to control how others perceive us in order to gain control. The Let Them Theory encourages readers to let go of that impulse of wanting to control everything and redirect our focus towards inner peace, self worth, and internal happiness. This simple but complex phrase has become a form of mental declutter for people-pleasers, and  it has given a sense of empowerment to readers in order to stop micromanaging others behavior. 

The tone is very conversational which makes the book extremely casual, almost as if we are having a direct conversation with Robbins. She utilizes direct anecdotes and her real life experiences to illustrate the way this theory can be applied to situations, and its positive impacts on relationships, self confidence, and even productivity. 

Critics seem to argue that the book oversimplifies complex interpersonal relationships and complex internal conflict. Not all situations allow a perfect solution for the Let Them Theory approach where accountability and communication is crucial. However Robbins does not directly claim this theory solves every problem. She simply offers it as a mindset reset especially for those who seem to seek people pleasing and overthink situations heavily. 

The Let Them Theory is a motivational read that heavily pours psychological information. While it’s not necessarily a deep approach to human behavior it provides a reminder to take back control from the things we aren’t able to control; to let go and be able to control what really  matters. Readers of practical and self-help seeking individuals will thoroughly enjoy this book.